toxic relationship

Advertisement
King of weaponized incompetence  Ending a relationship on the spot can be hard, but sometimes you have to do it. There is no other option; your partner has shown absolute incompetence in being a fully functioning adult, and also a great deal of passive-aggressiveness towards you. There’s no working it out.

34-year-old man throws away all his girlfriend's groceries to weaponize his incompetence: ‘He'd thrown out things that were perfectly fine, including a small tin of milk my parents had brought over from abroad’

Birthday blues  I don’t know about you guys, but for me, birthdays are the most sensitive days. What they say is true: if you don’t cry at least once, it’s not your birthday. I remember once I cried only because I THOUGHT nobody was going to come (I think only two people texted me saying they couldn’t make it).

Woman decides to cut all her friends off because they bailed on her on her birthday: ‘I know people say “show up for yourself,” and I can. I always do. But for once I wanted someone ELSE to show up for me’

Advertisement
Healthy families don’t view their son’s partners as intruders. They might not like them; they might think they aren’t the best for their sons, but they respect their sons' decisions  Most families are far from what’s ideal in terms of behavior; that’s why new marriages have to be really clear in enforcing their boundaries.

Man prioritizes his wife’s plans and family reacts badly: ‘My family got upset and said I'm changing since I got married. They also said my wife is slowly pulling me away from them’

Let me hold your hand when I say this…  Sometimes the only alternative is to tell your friend the truth, even if it hurts them. It’s our opinion; it doesn’t have to be the most universal fact ever known to men, but if we care for our friend, it’s ok to try to say it.

Woman doesn’t know how to tell her 30-year-old friend that the reason she’s single is that she comes on too strong: ‘I'm starting to get sick of hearing about it because the answer is so obvious to everybody but herself’

I swear to God, this is somewhat normal behaviour in the ‘fitness community’. Why are they so obsessed with making everyone else follow their strict eating habits and rules?

Man Returns Home After a 12-hour Shift, And His Roommate’s Girlfriend Had Thrown Away His Food: ‘She’d thrown away my frozen pizzas, Hot Pockets, and chips because they are "literal poison," and she wanted the apartment to eat cleaner’

Advertisement
Is it a boundary or a form of coercion? I can’t tell!  I believe some people can’t tell the difference between a genuine, heartfelt boundary and an entitled claim.

‘I was just sharing my sadness with her about my own break-up and how I wanted to heal/move on, but she flipped it and made it about her and her ex’: 32-year-old Woman Threatens to End Friendship if Friend Goes to a Conference Her Ex Will Be At

we often stop having a friend and end up with someone who constantly asks for our advice, and then disappears to prioritize their romantic relationship.  We only see them when their relationship is going south or when they’re single; we get excited, then it happens again, and they fall head over heels for someone they’ve known for two weeks, tops.

22-year-old Woman is Exhausted by Friend’s Relationship-Hopping Tendencies: ‘With Every Relationship, There's Always Plans on Moving in Together in an Entirely Different State Qith No Real Savings on Her End at Least’

I’ve definitely done this, and now I’m ashamed. Thanks, Internet!  You might be surprised by my stance on this topic, but I absolutely think romantic relationships are somewhat collective. Haven’t you ever asked your girlfriends for advice on how to respond to a text message?

Woman Uses Boyfriend's Computer And Realizes His Sister Has Been Helping Him Respond During Their Every Discussion: ‘Then a Notification From His Sister Popped Up. It Said: “This Time I Actually Think She’s Right 😂”’

Advertisement
It’s always the same old story: a stay-at-home mom’s work goes undervalued until the one who undervalued her tries to care for the kids for two days straight and realizes what it entails

Stay-At-Home Mother of Three Realizes Her Husband Sees Himself as More “Valuable” Than Her: ‘He Doubles Down Saying Everything We Have Is Because of Him. He Says He Brings More to The Table, He Could Easily Do My Job And I Couldn’t Do His’

Girl, are you sure you miss him as a person? Is it love for Use or a Real connection?  I love to see how people don’t realize they’re being extremely instrumental sometimes. They talk about real love or longing, and as they dive deep into it, you realize they are not talking about appreciating

Woman regrets not marrying her boyfriend of six years after he married someone else right after she dumped him: ‘He said that he was only 27 and needed 2 more years because he wanted to buy a house first. I didn’t believe him then’

The fact that he can’t disclose that he needs space is what makes it so shady  It’s only natural that we desire to have more space for ourselves when we usually live with a partner. Ideally, that desire should be talked about and respected within the couple.

Man who lives with his girlfriend secretly rents an apartment only to have space for himself: ‘I'm not cheating, meeting anyone there or doing anything sketchy. I order food, play games, watch YouTube, sleep whenever I want ’

Advertisement
If we’re giving therapy sessions, we should start charging for them  We should keep this in mind: not everyone in our lives is our friend. With some people, we share far more time than we should, but once we see that, we can’t unsee it, and we have to act.

Woman realizes her ‘best friend’ is using her as an emotional dump but never shares anything important about her life: ‘Worse, she treats her actual life like a classified secret. Whenever I have good news or interviews, I share them openly’

Are we policing what people do with their free time now? Should extremely tired moms make even their free time productive?  I’m going to preface this piece by saying I don’t agree with either the husband or the commentators in this post. I thought my point of view would be the most obvious,

Man dismisses his wife’s feelings as social-media influence: ‘If I ever try to bring up something to him that might be bothering me, he will often question whether I actually feel that way or if I found it on TikTok’

Many important life events are just coincidences that happen because you were in the right place at the right time  I often think about it; maybe your mom and dad met at a concert that one of them wasn’t going to, and their friends made them go. Maybe you stop a random girl in the street to ask for the time, and she ends up being the love of your life. I mean, what are the odds? But it happens.

‘What's the Smallest Decision You've Ever Made That Ended Up Changing Your Life?’: People Share Minor Choices that Significantly Altered Their Life Paths

Advertisement
Sometimes we shouldn’t even wonder if we’re being mean; just move on with our lives  Some people will take advantage of what we give to them. To accept a gift once is one thing, but to continue using and abusing the same thing over and over without ever asking again is a whole other story.

Man revokes his friend’s rooftop access: ‘[He] admitted he’d been bringing dates there because the rooftop had become his “secret weapon”’

Retroactive family charge  There is a distinction between a gift and a debt. A gift produces an asymmetry. A genuine gift produces an asymmetry; you can’t immediately ‘give back’ or repay, and that’s part of what makes it genuine. It’s not something you’re expected to pay for.

Man charges his daughter-in-law $5,000 for a trip to Europe he was supposedly paying for: ‘I would have booked different flights, hotels, and experiences if I knew I would have had to pay for all of it. I was only told I would be paying for the flight’

1 2 3 4 5