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Have you ever lost a friend? Not naturally, not through the passage of time, but through concrete action, a good ol’ breakup just like lovers do. I have, many times, some I have gone back to, some I haven’t, but it’s always funny how so many words and songs and books and films exist about the end of romantic love, and how few about the end of a friendship.

Woman breaks up with a long time friend due to him changing his attitude and developing feelings for her: 'Someone who had become such an important part of my life was gone. Years later I still think about him'

Have you ever had a friend who has simply everything going right for him or her? Have you ever had the same friend having everything going right not for a period of time but FOREVER? I had, but I never reacted with jealousy. I don’t want to seem like the moral police here, but I think there can be plenty of postures to take that are much more beneficial than jealousy.

30-year-old woman runs out of the headspace she needs to handle the jealousy she feels towards her decade-old best friend: 'I’ve started resenting her for always having it so easy, always being just “lucky” and absolutely every single aspect of her life;

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Sometimes a relationship ends but one part is unaware of it I’ve been in this situation so many times, almost always on the aware part, but either way, it never ceases to be heartbreaking. Friendships, sadly, sometimes take the worst part of romances, and people in them exhibit behaviours such as nagging and jealousy outbursts; or you find out one day that you are much more important to your friend’s life than that person is to you.

33-year-old woman is trapped in an unwanted frienship because she is unable to say no to her very insistent friend: 'Every other time, I cook up a lie to say no. The annoying part is she doesn’t even ask or request'

When should our nitpicking stop? In these modern times, there's a pretty widespread idea that our partners should be there to satisfy our every need, and that we should be so pragmatic as to leave them ASAP if there is a very minor box they don't check. Evidently, I do not subscribe to that way of thinking, and today I'm going to explain why.

44-year-old woman considers leaving her boyfriend over a pillow: 'I just feel like I've run out of ways to calmly communicate why this is important to me'

Who determines our relationship to love and marriage? At first, I thought this was yet another story about a guy getting cold feet right at the moment he is asked a big question. This is how it always goes for me: everything seems to be going fine, and at some point, I decide to bring up some variation of the ‘what are we?’ question, and all we had goes up in flames.

25-year-old woman asks her 27-year-old boyfriend about clarity on their future and he breaks up with her: 'He later said he spoke to his mother and she said he should marry 6 months after finishing postgrad'

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We’re not born knowing how to not be anxious around love, and our first experiences with it are filled with all-or-nothing scenarios. I remember how I felt every time my high school sweetheart didn’t immediately text back. I would succumb to the deepest pit, thinking my life was definitely over. At that age, it’s very hard to tell the emotional mind that the other person might be occupied and has not spend its afternoon thinking about how to destroy you.

17-year-old boyfriend wonders if its okay to not want his same age girlfriend to go to a girls night out: 'I was unable to go to the girls night because I was a boy'

The movies that taught us how to act and feel when in love forgot to mention stuff like mortgages, inflation, and the cost of airplane tickets. When we enter a partnership, we do so without knowing what pervasive bad habits our loved ones have and what damage they’ll eventually cause in our relationship. That unknowingness is, in part, good because if we knew everything from the get-go, we would never form any kind of couple.

Frustrated husband considers leaving his wife due to her repeatedly making bad major life decisions over the last 10 years: 'Am I being resentful and unfair?'

I wish someone or something could protect us from the ridiculous fights we pick and the mistakes we make in our first relationships, but we are at the mercy of stronger forces and find ourselves pushed to go through that character arc alone. Everything feels so dramatic when we're in our early twenties; you couldn't pay me enough to go back, but no one can take the pleasure of watching and analyzing someone who's still in the trenches away from me.

22-year-old college student got dumped by his 21-year-old girlfriend simply for talking to a female friend: ‘From my girlfriend's perspective, she believes: I hid important information.’

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Are we always obliged to follow our loved ones' rules? Our most meaningful rules might appear ridiculous to somebody else, but part of the art of learning how to love is respecting what our significant others deem important, even though it sounds ludicrous to us. That’s my position anyway, but let’s see what this Redditor has to say.

32-year-old neat freak is mad about his same age fianceé not taking her shoes off inside his house: ‘Refusing to respect my rules regardless of how silly you think they may be will send me into orbit’

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31-year-old man states that his coworkers' flirting is part of their culture, insists on ‘separating family from business’, leaving his girlfriend questioning whether he simply enjoys the attention: 'Am I overreacting?'

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Husband lands himself in hot water by proposing they purchase a Mother's Day present that is clearly for himself: 'We have a 50-inch that is older but works well enough for me...'

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26-year-old boyfriend who earns considerably more than his 24-year-old girlfriend grows wary of her increasing demands for his money: 'I earn $95k working in corporate finance'

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Dad pulls 15-year-old daughter out of gymnastics against his wife's wishes in order to protect her when he discovers why she wants to leave the sport: 'She is a sophomore in High school and wants to stop competing'

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‘I worked hard to get where I am’: Husband insists 29 y/o wife quit her job because he received a sizable salary increase, she refuses on principle

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28-year-old husband gets heated when his 25-year-old wife serves them and their 1-year-old son spaghetti for dinner: 'You know i don’t like spaghetti [why do we] we have to eat spaghetti once a month'

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Aspiring bar owner chooses her career over controlling boyfriend after he forces her to choose between him and her dream: '"If you take it, we're done"'

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Employee stops overworking as it hasn't brought any raises, workload increases for everybody else, boss notices how much he was doing when he stopped: 'He admitted I was doing work that should have been divided between at least two roles.'

Employee stops overworking as it hasn't brought any raises, workload increases for everybody else, boss notices how much he was doing when he stopped: 'He admitted I was doing work that should have been divided between at least two roles.'

Manteinance employee maliciously complies with his manager's new rule and in an unexpected turn of events, his manager loves it: 'As you can tell from the title, this did not go how I was expecting'

Manteinance employee maliciously complies with his manager's new rule and in an unexpected turn of events, his manager loves it: 'As you can tell from the title, this did not go how I was expecting'

Chef thinks he is teaching the kitchen "Runner" a lesson over a kitchen intrusion, but he's the one who learns one thanks to the Runner's malicious compliance: 'Don't want me to do the work? Ok, then do it yourself'

Chef thinks he is teaching the kitchen "Runner" a lesson over a kitchen intrusion, but he's the one who learns one thanks to the Runner's malicious compliance: 'Don't want me to do the work? Ok, then do it yourself'

Frustrated gym user sets up an automatic response for every time he gets a late fee notification in revenge for the one time they charged him an extra $11: 'I did what anyone with too much free time and a mild interest in how systems work would do'

Frustrated gym user sets up an automatic response for every time he gets a late fee notification in revenge for the one time they charged him an extra $11: 'I did what anyone with too much free time and a mild interest in how systems work would do'

Employee stops volunteering extra work until manager notices, leading them to finally acknowledge and change the workload: ‘It made me invisible’

Employee stops volunteering extra work until manager notices, leading them to finally acknowledge and change the workload: ‘It made me invisible’

'It might be time to download Hinge again': 25 Hinge messages fails to make you feel better about your love life

'It might be time to download Hinge again': 25 Hinge messages fails to make you feel better about your love life

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