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People react to not having money in the most random ways. Sometimes it’s easier to have a fight with someone than for them to admit they don’t want to pay you back because it’s too much money for them, and not because of some rationalization about a cat’s health, lol. Either way, when someone pushes back t

21-year-old woman drives her friend’s pet to a vet appointment at 4am, pays for it, and her friend says she isn’t going to pay her back: ‘ She thinks we should split the bill because I made a financial decision on his medicine that she didn’t agree to’

Sometimes we’re so caught up in a relationship that we start questioning the unquestionable. Some things, looked at from afar, seem ridiculous. Of course somebody can prioritize love and family over education, but getting a scholarship to a prestigious university means one, in one way or another, worked for it, and

‘I worry I’m really going to regret it’: Student gets offered a scholarship to Harvard, but girlfriend states it threatens their relationship so he considers missing his opportunity

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I don’t think this revenge went as well as this Redditor thinks it did, but as I always say: The revenge is for the avenger’s pleasure, nothing more. We should always remember to keep it silly so we don’t hurt anybody. Either way, this avenger reestablished the balance of the universe by doing this, and we’re all v

‘Before she could take it, I turned around and tossed it about five feet away. I turned back to her and sternly said “go pick it up”’: Man remembers his petty revenge on an entitled middle-school classmate

If dating is hard, I can’t imagine how hard finding a husband is. I tend to think these sorts of problems arise from the approach we’re taking to dating and not from the dating pool itself. She says some interesting things about her and her relationship with the internet; she says she loves video games, Reddit, CDs. To me,

‘Imagine trying to share your favorite sci-fi or Reddit meme with someone who doesn't comprehend... It's loneliness’ : 33-year-old woman at the end of her wits with finding a partner and is thinking about using an international marriage agency

Not for nothing, mothers-in-law have been depicted as evil witches throughout history, in every art form possible. Hold on, I’m not saying they are actually evil; I’m saying the relationship between a mother and her son’s significant other is always potentially rocky, because mothers tend to want the best and only the best for them, and get v

‘His mother doesn't respect me, and he said that that wasn't how she meant it, and that she just views family differently’: Mother-in-law excludes son’s wife from family picture and sparks a debate

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I’m going to be very careful because this is a little funny, but it’s also very serious, and there is a slight element of inversion that’s interesting to me. On the one hand, we’ve got a man telling his partner she is “beggy” after she asked for something, and on the other, we’ve got a woman who got legally married, still calls her

31-year-old man calls his fiancé “beggy” for asking for a formal proposal: ‘Instead of feeling excited about a proposal or a ring, I don’t really want either anymore because it feels tainted’

Breaking up in your twenties is one thing; in your thirties, another; in your forties, another, but at 68? That’s wild, and I’m totally here for it; it’s never too late to change your life and try new stuff. I suppose marriage at that age is also about helping each other with tasks that were much easier when you’re young but

68-year-old man wonders how to properly break up his 35-year-long marriage: ‘I don’t want to hurt her but I don’t think I can stay. This is going to be life altering for both of us’

Insecurity is a double-edged sword. When a wound is so open like that, people tend to look for quick, effective ways to soothe its pain, but nothing quick really works, so it s

Man pays an exaggerated compliment to an insecure friend and now regrets it: ‘Now, whenever she gets the chance, she puts other women down by using that comment’

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It’s the same as living together; one thing is to be friends with somebody, but making routines and habits work together peacefully is another. Living together has its own downside because you can’t just ‘go home’ and escape the situation; the situation is quite literally inside your home, but travelling is pretty much the sam

‘She’d get anxious over what we should do. Once we did choose something, she’d try to one up the plans we’d already made’: Woman insists on going on second trip with friend while she looks for a way to reject her

This is by far the weirdest fight I've ever heard in a roommate situation, so much so that I started creating theories in my mind to determine why I don’t think this friend is being truthful about her motives to keep her friend outside her workplace. Even if we give her the benefit of the doubt, all the problems she presents are solvable, so why not try that? I don’t think she is in a position to discuss much, but let’s see.

Woman refuses to allow roomie to work in the same restaurant as her: 'I want to take the job is because we just spent the last six hours after I worked eight hours trying to come up with the rest of the money needed that you were supposed to make’

I totally understand that hunger can be nerve-wracking, especially when you’re seeing everybody else eat except you, but manners exist for a reason, and that reason is belonging. When a restaurant delays your order long enough, you start to feel that if you leave, you’d wasted all the time you already spent waiting, but at the sa

Man gets tired of waiting, cancels his order at restaurant, goes looking for other food while fiancé and family are still eating, and now they are angry at him: ‘Can you please wait for 20mins. I said wow’

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Look, I’m not here to question a woman’s intuition. Sometimes we know more than we think we know, and when we tell our friends or on Reddit our anecdotal evidence, it comes off as insufficient. To me, this situation could very well be an example of a girl’s spider-sense and not an exaggeration, but even if that’s the

Woman abruptly breaks up with boyfriend over ambivalent situation and then wonders whether she overreacted: ‘I said I’m upset either way, leave, and break up with him, saying that if I did the same he would probably be jealous too’

I’m not sure ghosting is an effective tactic, and it’s not necessary to go to the extreme opposite and tell the person you dated only once what exact attributes they had that turned you off. To me, the best option is to say something along the lines of: ‘I didn’t feel the connection, but I had a great time; nice to me

Woman wonders about the effects of getting repeatedly ghosted and the reasons why it happens: ‘There were NEVER any signs of incompatibility. We could have fun, talk deep stuff, but the person would still disappear’

The unavoidable friend I don’t think this is a matter of how social this friend is, really. I know that’s a plausible theory, but some attitudes point to other underlying reasons for this friend’s intrusiveness. Some people can’t see t

Woman wonders how to stop overly social friend from inserting herself into every plan she makes with other people: ‘Sometimes she’ll even message the other person directly or show up after getting the details from me’

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I don’t think limitations are problematic per se. Maybe you have a boyfriend who can’t help you with laundry because he hates doing laundry and has hated it all his life, and maybe you can deal with that, and it’s not the end of the world. Maybe that same boyfriend loves doing the dishes, and you hate it, and you divide house tasks accordingly.

32-year-old boyfriend refuses to help 30-year-old girlfriend with any task but gets upset when she tries to hire somebody else to help her: ‘When we’ve talked about this, he tells me he wants me to be able to do most things on my own without help’

I know I didn’t invent this; it’s common knowledge for some reason. Things do not become clichés randomly; it’s because, over time, they happen over and over again, across countries, across cultures, across everything. This is one of them. I’m not afraid of stating it: EXES DO HAVE A RADAR THAT TELLS THEM WHEN YOU’RE DOING FINE. This has happened to me on various occasions, and it was not eve

Recently single 75-year-old man has been contacted by multiple exes in the span of one month and doesn’t understand why: ‘What is the psychological motive here?’