toxic relationship

Advertisement

As we get older, we realize that being part of a group often costs money. We have to go for drinks, we celebrate birthdays, and we have dinner parties. On birthdays, we buy gifts, drinks cost money, and dinners are expensive, even if they are hosted by a friend of ours. For some people, it’s very hard to assume you don’t have that much money, and they’d rather fake it ‘til they make it.

Man exposes friend who always expects someone else to cover her bill during dinner parties: 'Before ordering, I quietly asked if everyone was okay paying for their own meals. Everyone agreed'

The much-feared group projects Back when I was in college, I had to work in groups all the time, and many of these things happened to me. And I suppose they happened to anyone who went through any sort of formal education.

College student is forced to do a group project in which nobody does anything so she decides to get revenge: 'I let the excruciatingly silent seconds drag on every single time, looking slowly to both of them with each question and taking my sweet time'

Advertisement

This story is the final proof that no absolute narrative exists; two people can have two opposing interpretations of what happened, and most of the time there is no use in trying to convince one of them otherwise.

Woman thinks her best friend of ten years is in love with her, friend says she is not and she doesn't believe it: 'Now, years later, I still question myself. Was there something I was unconsciously feeling and suppressing?'

Two wrongs don’t make it right, but at least we’re even. Sometimes, in relationships characterized by disappointment, and even more so when disappointment always comes from one end, we have to revert to something more than words to set a boundary. I mean, when we are already tired of talking, and it falls on deaf ears.

27-year-old woman considers not celebrating 28-year-old boyfriend's birthday because he didn't celebrate hers: 'I just don’t care that much if he feels special or loved'

I have the strongest opinions about this story, but let’s bear with her, because I presume we all know what it’s like to be in love and how hard it is, sometimes, to see the red flags for what they are. It starts with a long-distance relationship; can you guess where it ends?

27-year-old man hosts his long-distance girlfriend for a week in his tiny room at his parent's house, 29-year-old girlfriend is afraid of bringing up moving to her cousin's house for the remaining days to be more comfortable: 'I feel so awkward'

Advertisement

Weddings are life-altering events; when we’re getting closer and closer to them, our opinion changes, new fears arise, and we might feel called to call it quits.

Man was supposed to be a groomsman on his 22-year-old friend's wedding until he cancelled it and ran away with another woman, now he wants to request reimbrusement for his investments: 'I want my money back for everything I put into HIS wedding'

Introverts and extroverts speak different languages. The same event can be experienced in totally different ways depending on whether the person experiencing it is an introvert or an extrovert.

26-year-old leaves a hangout early because her friend didn't tell her she was bringing another friend, and now she questions her reaction: 'Later she went to chat with a table of pilots, and again I felt left out'

Luckily, most of this intense drama happens in high school and stays there. Still, years later, we find out we’re paying the price to this day with numerous insecurities and sensitivity around certain topics.

Best friend of six years dates the guy her friend liked in high-school, leaving her questioning if the friendship was toxic or if she is viewing everything from the lens of her own hurt: 'Was this friendship unhealthy from both sides?'

Advertisement

I don’t know about you guys, but I consider picky eating a very serious issue. To me, it’s unthinkable to be more than 7 years of age and still unable to eat anything with garlic.

Entitled 29-year-old picky-eater demands his girlfriend to exclude every ingredient he doesn't like from her diet leaving her wondering if she should accomodate: 'After I told him they were for me, he kept saying things like, “You know I don’t eat that”'

Realistic hopecore Reading stories like this reignites my faith in humanity. Probably all the hearts he broke are mended by now, but he can at least stop himself from breaking more in the future. I thought my cold exes could never be self-aware, but this story makes me think they might be, one day, when they turn 34.

34-year-old man realizes he has been the toxic one in every single relationship he had and wonders what to do about it: 'I always thought codependent people had the problem and i was fine because i don't need anyone. but not needing anyone isn't strength'

This character flaw is rather hard to live with if a friend has it. You do your best; you tell them reunions start an hour before they actually start, so if they arrive one hour late, they are actually early.

Woman is always more than 40 minutes late to every event and friend doubts if she should confront her about her chronic tardiness or not: 'It's getting worse but at the same time I don't think she does it on purpose and I don't want to hurt her feelings'

Advertisement

There’s a fine line between helping someone and enabling them. I’ve been in situations myself where friends of mine acted stingy with their stuff. In those cases, helping out wouldn’t have been a way to enable me, but I understand everybody draws the line in a different place. This woman seems puzzled about the way she acted towards a friend of hers.

31-year-old woman refuses to offer her spare bedroom to her friend who's being kicked out and becoming homeless: 'I do feel bad, however I don’t feel responsible to offer my spare room'

If you can't explain it to a Victorian child, it doesn't count I'm amazed by the quantity of stories that exist today that fifteen years ago would've been unthinkable, or at least absolutely dystopian. I remember watching the movie Her, and while I was crying, I was like, c'mon, this can't happen to anyone.

Woman cancels wedding two days before the event after finding out about fiancé's relationship with an AI model: 'He cried and said it doesnt count because shes not real'

Oftentimes, we normalize the way we naturally act around friendship and never stop to think: Am I being a good enough friend? This is precisely what this Redditor started to do after she noticed most of her friends cancelled on her at the last minute. My take on the topic is that her friends doing that doesn’t necessarily mean she is a bad friend; it might even mean she has bad friends lol.

28-year-old woman wonders how can she become a better friend after all her friends cancel on her last minute and thinking her being a bad friend is causing that: 'I feel like I should be a better friend so people would actually want to spend time with me'

Advertisement

Nobody else but us can say what’s important for us in our friendships and in our lives. When we constantly feel somebody else doesn’t listen to us, it’s ok to listen to that feeling, but sometimes we get glimpses of something else that might be going on. It’s always ok to try to have an honest conversation with ourselves, or with a forum on the internet lol, and see whether we are exaggerating through our pretensions or not.

Guy constantly feels unheard and overriden over "little things" but refuses to be more direct when they happen: 'If I did the same things he did, to my own mother, she would get incredibly angry'

Big events have a way of bringing everything into light. Those days, when our feelings are exacerbated and expectations are high, old dynamics we’ve gotten so used to that we stopped noticing them show themselves again at full force. The resulting feeling is bittersweet; we see something clearly now- which is in itself a blessing, but what we see isn’t beautiful at all.

Bride abruptly ended a 10-year friendship with her maid of honour after what happened on her wedding day: 'Eventually I asked her for honesty and closure. What I got back shocked me.'