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I know I didn’t invent this; it’s common knowledge for some reason. Things do not become clichés randomly; it’s because, over time, they happen over and over again, across countries, across cultures, across everything. This is one of them. I’m not afraid of stating it: EXES DO HAVE A RADAR THAT TELLS THEM WHEN YOU’RE DOING FINE. This has happened to me on various occasions, and it was not eve

Recently single 75-year-old man has been contacted by multiple exes in the span of one month and doesn’t understand why: ‘What is the psychological motive here?’

Shrek WHAT? I can’t believe this is an actual concept, but we are living in a strange era. What is the world coming to? Lol. Of course, she is not overreacting; this could very well be the modern version of Carrie, except

24-year-old man introduces the concept of “shrekking” on a date: ‘I bet you're glad for this trend, How does it feel to be on a date with someone so handsome?’

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Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about when it’s the right time to express ourselves. Sometimes, a problem arises, and we speak too quickly, at a time when everyone involved is defensive and nobody understands what’s really going on. Other times, we decide to speak when it’s too late, and we hurt someone for a long time with our sile

Woman abruptly ends a friendship over a comment from social media. After some time, the friend wonders why she never spoke to her about it: ‘I just accepted that we had become more casual friends. But instead of saying that, I made up some dumb excuse.’

To have a guilty conscience The most ridiculous part of this story is that the supposedly betrayed part is not even angry. The only one who’s freaking out is the one who has a guilty conscience. It’s sad how you can find out, years later, that not all of your friends have the capacity to have an honest, heart-to-heart conversation. Maybe you used to kee

40-year-old man realizes his soon-to-be ex-wife is dating his friend, who has now blocked him everywhere: ‘How would you feel? I’m told a real friend wouldn’t do that’

Oh no! The consequences of my own actions Facing reality can sometimes be hard; one can realize that one was living well beyond one’s means, or that one lost not only a relationship but also a specific lifestyle. To me, separations come with th

‘We should’ve just stayed living together and tried to reconcile the relationship’: 25-year-old man warns his ex-girlfriend that if she moves to an expensive apartment, she will be living paycheque to paycheque

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Do we get married to please family and friends? I don’t think the concept of marriage is independent of gatherings and celebrations; the origins of marriage as a ceremony are directly linked to community, family, and groups. It was originally a celebration precisely orchestrated within society and a ritual that symbolized a passage from one role inside it

A couple gets secretly engaged, then secretly married, and ends up disappointing their loved ones when they eventually find out: ‘From our perspective, we didn't do it to exclude anyone or because we don't love our families and friends’

Not many things are as frustrating in the dating world as discovering that somebody you thought was the perfect guy wasn’t perfect at all. If we’re lucky enough, this kind of thing happens early, and we’re attentive enough to see it and take action. After an event like this, we can get caught up in any sort of justification for our significant

‘I met his college best friends at a pub and he instantly morphed into a loud, obnoxious alpha bro’: Woman wonders if she is overreacting or if the perfect guy she was dating suddenly dropped his mask

We all want the best for our partners; we want them to do well at their jobs, to get a raise, to reach their goals. Sometimes, we also want them to look their best because we see them with our loving eyes, know they are the prettiest in the room, and we want them to shine at all times. But what happens when what’s driving our partner's actions is not nece

36-year-old man constantly ‘fixes’ and critiques his 34-year-old girlfriend’s appearance: ‘When I tell him it bothers me, he says I'm taking it personally and that he just wants me to “look my best”’

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When friendships consist of trios, it’s only natural that sometimes two of the people involved team up and the other gets left out. I’m not saying it’s ok; I’m saying it happens. I have many long-term friendship trios that have evolved in many ways through the years, sometimes leaving me out, sometimes leaving somebody else out, and sometimes being

20-year-old woman ghosts friend after she compares her to a bad ice cream flavour: ‘Once you try it, you kind of start to like it. And it has all of these layers like it's deeper than you thought, but you have to learn to like it.’

Closure is a funny thing; it’s never entirely clear to us what we are trying to find when we’re looking for it. Oftentimes we want to express our side of the story before we let go of the other person completely; other times, we’re secretly hoping to reignite a friendship or a past love affair; but every time it’s a

Man wonders if reaching out to an ex-best friend for closure is worth it after three years of no contact: ‘I feel like doing that might help me finally let her go completely and close that chapter on a good note’

This could qualify as a horror story. It would be a good A24 film. A man gets smart-fridge notifications in the middle of the night while everyone is sound asleep. In this case, discovering a snack-eating ghost would’ve been a better outcome than what really happened. Infidelities are not solved via an exorcism

Man catches wife’s affair thanks to his smart fridge’s notifications: ‘She said she slept the whole night through, no interruptions. That was the exact wrong thing to say to a man holding fridge-door notification data’

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Friendships are something most people want, yet not as many people make an effort to find and maintain them. It’s a tough subject because socially, we assume it's something people should naturally know how to do, and I’m starting to think many people fail at it because it doesn’t come as naturally to everyone.

Man wonders whether people are putting less effort into maintaining friendships, or whether people don’t want to be around him: ‘They always say “we need to hang more”/“we need to do this again soon!” and then they never reach out to set something up’

I never thought baking delicious brownies could be implemented as a revenge tactic. Being 100% honest, I don’t even think the people who ate them understood it as such, but I’ve now got to a way deeper realization: Maybe the only one who needs to feel the revenge worked is the one who did it.

Student cooks delicious brownies as revenge against annoying teammates: ‘Even years later, I occasionally get a message from a group member asking for the recipe. I ignored them all’

Since when has shutting down and going quiet been considered overreacting? Of course, it can be used to make someone else furious, but I don’t think this is the case. Sometimes, when you receive a complaint in the form of aggression, the best you can do is stay silent and wait a while until, eventually, you are able to talk about it with the other person in a more mature manner.

Man shuts down when his girlfriend gets insecure with a restaurant server and spends the entire evening making petty remarks about her: 'I was wondering if I was overreacting by going quiet and just keeping to myself for the rest of the night'

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Some people connect more easily with their inner child. Sometimes, so much so that it’s difficult to distinguish them from the adult person also living inside them. If we got stuck at some developmental stage, maybe it’s helpful for us to try to re-elaborate it once we are older.

30-year-old man starts treating his 28-year-old wife like she is a toddler because she acted like one towards her child:' I then told my wife to apologize, then after she said sorry I told her to say what she was sorry for'

As we get older, we realize that being part of a group often costs money. We have to go for drinks, we celebrate birthdays, and we have dinner parties. On birthdays, we buy gifts, drinks cost money, and dinners are expensive, even if they are hosted by a friend of ours. For some people, it’s very hard to assume you don’t have that much money, and they’d rather fake it ‘til they make it.

Man exposes friend who always expects someone else to cover her bill during dinner parties: 'Before ordering, I quietly asked if everyone was okay paying for their own meals. Everyone agreed'