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In life, we're sometimes confronted with very difficult decisions, some about our career paths, some about our finances, and others about our love lives. It's a tale as old as time: the mean wife makes the husband decide between his friends and her. But in this case, I think the mean ones are the husband's friends, and the wife is not even bringing up the decision.

41-year-old man allowed his friends to pressure him into organizing a hiking trip without his wife: 'They have also made remarks implying that my husband should prioritize their trips over plans he has made with me'

Who determines our relationship to love and marriage? At first, I thought this was yet another story about a guy getting cold feet right at the moment he is asked a big question. This is how it always goes for me: everything seems to be going fine, and at some point, I decide to bring up some variation of the ‘what are we?’ question, and all we had goes up in flames.

25-year-old woman asks her 27-year-old boyfriend about clarity on their future and he breaks up with her: 'He later said he spoke to his mother and she said he should marry 6 months after finishing postgrad'

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The movies that taught us how to act and feel when in love forgot to mention stuff like mortgages, inflation, and the cost of airplane tickets. When we enter a partnership, we do so without knowing what pervasive bad habits our loved ones have and what damage they’ll eventually cause in our relationship. That unknowingness is, in part, good because if we knew everything from the get-go, we would never form any kind of couple.

Frustrated husband considers leaving his wife due to her repeatedly making bad major life decisions over the last 10 years: 'Am I being resentful and unfair?'

Marriage vows typically contain a phrase that refers back to the “what’s mine is yours and what’s yours is mine” idea; the way we think about that union has been ingrained in us for centuries. However, when one thinks of that, one thinks of shared belongings, goods, food, and shelter, not about claiming authorship for everything our partner has done before we were even in the picture.

35-year-old man insists on sharing authorship of a book he didn't write with his 33-year-old girlfriend: 'Were not even on the same lease yet and he wants to be on the spine of a book that took me four and a half years to write'

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Wife refuses to pay mortgage on a property her husband owns after he asks her to fund his sabbatical despite having 10 times her net worth

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Are we always obliged to follow our loved ones' rules? Our most meaningful rules might appear ridiculous to somebody else, but part of the art of learning how to love is respecting what our significant others deem important, even though it sounds ludicrous to us. That’s my position anyway, but let’s see what this Redditor has to say.

32-year-old neat freak is mad about his same age fianceé not taking her shoes off inside his house: ‘Refusing to respect my rules regardless of how silly you think they may be will send me into orbit’

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Woman Questions Fiancé's Bachelor Party After Learning He Only Invited His Closest Female Friends

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29-year-old wife is tired of her same-age husband’s people-pleasing tendencies. 'No one sees the other side of the coin, where he’s completely bitter and resentful because he feels that he gives more than he gets.'

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We, as people, as opposed to robots, in relationships, should aim to consider context when answering a question or even when we are just chatting, but sometimes simple distractions or routine creep up on our daily conversations, and we end up getting on our loved one’s nerves.

Wife asks husband what he’d like for dinner, becomes upset when he actually replies with what he’d like for dinner instead of saying he will cook. ‘She asked for suggestions, so I gave one.’

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42-year-old asks wife to help fund stepdaughter's college despite the separate finances agreement he proposed when they got married, and gets upset when she refuses

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Man asks friend about future plans with his girlfriend, he happily shares engagement hopes, friend suddenly turns into relationship doomsayer: 'Bro, no one’s gonna wanna marry you'.

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Husband lands himself in hot water by proposing they purchase a Mother's Day present that is clearly for himself: 'We have a 50-inch that is older but works well enough for me...'

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Mom gets upset after husband says he wants to spend Mother’s Day brunch with his own family despite already gifting the trip she really wanted: ‘I felt incredibly left out last year’

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'A couple broke up during their $180k wedding': 10 Newlyweds who instantly regretted getting married

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Boss brags about employee sending a Slack message during their wedding, apologizes after post goes viral

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35-year-old agrees to officiate her 29-year-old sister's 3rd wedding even though she thinks they're rushing it, family drama ensues but big sister still has her little sister's back: ‘My job is to be supportive.'

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Employee gets laid off without notice, and when he says he already has a new job, he gets asked if he was going to give proper notice: ‘You just told me my role is done by Friday, and you're asking me about proper notice.’

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Employee stops overworking as it hasn't brought any raises, workload increases for everybody else, boss notices how much he was doing when he stopped: 'He admitted I was doing work that should have been divided between at least two roles.'

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