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We’re not born knowing how to not be anxious around love, and our first experiences with it are filled with all-or-nothing scenarios. I remember how I felt every time my high school sweetheart didn’t immediately text back. I would succumb to the deepest pit, thinking my life was definitely over. At that age, it’s very hard to tell the emotional mind that the other person might be occupied and has not spend its afternoon thinking about how to destroy you.

17-year-old boyfriend wonders if its okay to not want his same age girlfriend to go to a girls night out: 'I was unable to go to the girls night because I was a boy'

The movies that taught us how to act and feel when in love forgot to mention stuff like mortgages, inflation, and the cost of airplane tickets. When we enter a partnership, we do so without knowing what pervasive bad habits our loved ones have and what damage they’ll eventually cause in our relationship. That unknowingness is, in part, good because if we knew everything from the get-go, we would never form any kind of couple.

Frustrated husband considers leaving his wife due to her repeatedly making bad major life decisions over the last 10 years: 'Am I being resentful and unfair?'

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Some errors, like forgetting a name, missing an appointment, or saying the wrong word, may be read as expressions of a wish or a conflict that has not yet surfaced through words. Seeing it through that lens, the fact that the girlfriend from this story missed the flight might not be ‘just carelessness’; instead, it can signify a much deeper truth.

24-year-old guy considers dumping his 21-year-old girlfriend because she missed a $650 flight to visit him that he paid for: 'The day before the flight, we barely even talked, and she just seemed so nonchalant about it'

Marriage vows typically contain a phrase that refers back to the “what’s mine is yours and what’s yours is mine” idea; the way we think about that union has been ingrained in us for centuries. However, when one thinks of that, one thinks of shared belongings, goods, food, and shelter, not about claiming authorship for everything our partner has done before we were even in the picture.

35-year-old man insists on sharing authorship of a book he didn't write with his 33-year-old girlfriend: 'Were not even on the same lease yet and he wants to be on the spine of a book that took me four and a half years to write'

It's a tale as old as time, you say you don't like surprises, and your significant other hears: 'I've spent my life secretly wishing somebody would throw me a surprise birthday party', and the rest is history; or should I say: the rest is this story. Just to add insult to injury, some people approach gifts in a 'what I would like to receive' way instead of actually thinking about the other person.

23-year-old boyfriend throws a surprise birthday party for girlfriend and forgets to include her and her friends: ‘It was four people, his best friend, a mutual friend, my roommate, and her friend I didn’t know’

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Wife refusing to pay for moving costs as the husband received a $10k bonus for it, he doesn't see the problem in her having to pay half of the cost when she doesn't have the means: 'We're moving for HIS job, a move his company is PAYING for.'

When we are suspicious about our significant others, any minor detail can send us into a never-ending spiral of paranoia. For the jealous person, it takes only a glance, a comment, or an unrecognised object to confirm their worst fears. Yes, I’m already assuming the boyfriend in this story is not guilty as charged; otherwise, why would he ask people on the internet what else he can do to convince his girlfriend he didn’t bring anyone while she was at work?… Oh wait.

25-year-old girlfriend finds a lighter near the sink and assumes her 27-year-old boyfriend had someone else in the house while she was at work: 'I swear on everything that nobody came over and I genuinely do not know where the lighter came from'

I wish someone or something could protect us from the ridiculous fights we pick and the mistakes we make in our first relationships, but we are at the mercy of stronger forces and find ourselves pushed to go through that character arc alone. Everything feels so dramatic when we're in our early twenties; you couldn't pay me enough to go back, but no one can take the pleasure of watching and analyzing someone who's still in the trenches away from me.

22-year-old college student got dumped by his 21-year-old girlfriend simply for talking to a female friend: ‘From my girlfriend's perspective, she believes: I hid important information.’

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Are we always obliged to follow our loved ones' rules? Our most meaningful rules might appear ridiculous to somebody else, but part of the art of learning how to love is respecting what our significant others deem important, even though it sounds ludicrous to us. That’s my position anyway, but let’s see what this Redditor has to say.

32-year-old neat freak is mad about his same age fianceé not taking her shoes off inside his house: ‘Refusing to respect my rules regardless of how silly you think they may be will send me into orbit’

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31-year-old man states that his coworkers' flirting is part of their culture, insists on ‘separating family from business’, leaving his girlfriend questioning whether he simply enjoys the attention: 'Am I overreacting?'

Very few things in relationships are as countable as money, so when we do the math and the facts don’t add up, we probably should go back to square one and reevaluate our future with the other person. Nine times out of ten, it’s very hard to find a balance, and leaving becomes part of the equation.

28-year-old man is found hiding $77,000 from his fianceé while she was paying for pretty much everything in their lives, making excuses when discovered: ‘I was planning on showing it to you as a surprise.’

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Husband lands himself in hot water by proposing they purchase a Mother's Day present that is clearly for himself: 'We have a 50-inch that is older but works well enough for me...'

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Dad pulls 15-year-old daughter out of gymnastics against his wife's wishes in order to protect her when he discovers why she wants to leave the sport: 'She is a sophomore in High school and wants to stop competing'

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‘I worked hard to get where I am’: Husband insists 29 y/o wife quit her job because he received a sizable salary increase, she refuses on principle

Breadwinning woman earns major promotion at work, demands unemployed fiancé stop using "we" when referring to her income, sparking tension as he insists couples should share everything

Breadwinning woman earns major promotion at work, demands unemployed fiancé stop using "we" when referring to her income, sparking tension as he insists couples should share everything: 'It makes me feel like my hard work is being minimized'