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If dating is hard, I can’t imagine how hard finding a husband is. I tend to think these sorts of problems arise from the approach we’re taking to dating and not from the dating pool itself. She says some interesting things about her and her relationship with the internet; she says she loves video games, Reddit, CDs. To me,

‘Imagine trying to share your favorite sci-fi or Reddit meme with someone who doesn't comprehend... It's loneliness’ : 33-year-old woman at the end of her wits with finding a partner and is thinking about using an international marriage agency

Not for nothing, mothers-in-law have been depicted as evil witches throughout history, in every art form possible. Hold on, I’m not saying they are actually evil; I’m saying the relationship between a mother and her son’s significant other is always potentially rocky, because mothers tend to want the best and only the best for them, and get v

‘His mother doesn't respect me, and he said that that wasn't how she meant it, and that she just views family differently’: Mother-in-law excludes son’s wife from family picture and sparks a debate

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I’m going to be very careful because this is a little funny, but it’s also very serious, and there is a slight element of inversion that’s interesting to me. On the one hand, we’ve got a man telling his partner she is “beggy” after she asked for something, and on the other, we’ve got a woman who got legally married, still calls her

31-year-old man calls his fiancé “beggy” for asking for a formal proposal: ‘Instead of feeling excited about a proposal or a ring, I don’t really want either anymore because it feels tainted’

Breaking up in your twenties is one thing; in your thirties, another; in your forties, another, but at 68? That’s wild, and I’m totally here for it; it’s never too late to change your life and try new stuff. I suppose marriage at that age is also about helping each other with tasks that were much easier when you’re young but

68-year-old man wonders how to properly break up his 35-year-long marriage: ‘I don’t want to hurt her but I don’t think I can stay. This is going to be life altering for both of us’

I totally understand that hunger can be nerve-wracking, especially when you’re seeing everybody else eat except you, but manners exist for a reason, and that reason is belonging. When a restaurant delays your order long enough, you start to feel that if you leave, you’d wasted all the time you already spent waiting, but at the sa

Man gets tired of waiting, cancels his order at restaurant, goes looking for other food while fiancé and family are still eating, and now they are angry at him: ‘Can you please wait for 20mins. I said wow’

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Look, I’m not here to question a woman’s intuition. Sometimes we know more than we think we know, and when we tell our friends or on Reddit our anecdotal evidence, it comes off as insufficient. To me, this situation could very well be an example of a girl’s spider-sense and not an exaggeration, but even if that’s the

Woman abruptly breaks up with boyfriend over ambivalent situation and then wonders whether she overreacted: ‘I said I’m upset either way, leave, and break up with him, saying that if I did the same he would probably be jealous too’

I’m not sure ghosting is an effective tactic, and it’s not necessary to go to the extreme opposite and tell the person you dated only once what exact attributes they had that turned you off. To me, the best option is to say something along the lines of: ‘I didn’t feel the connection, but I had a great time; nice to me

Woman wonders about the effects of getting repeatedly ghosted and the reasons why it happens: ‘There were NEVER any signs of incompatibility. We could have fun, talk deep stuff, but the person would still disappear’

I don’t think limitations are problematic per se. Maybe you have a boyfriend who can’t help you with laundry because he hates doing laundry and has hated it all his life, and maybe you can deal with that, and it’s not the end of the world. Maybe that same boyfriend loves doing the dishes, and you hate it, and you divide house tasks accordingly.

32-year-old boyfriend refuses to help 30-year-old girlfriend with any task but gets upset when she tries to hire somebody else to help her: ‘When we’ve talked about this, he tells me he wants me to be able to do most things on my own without help’

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I know I didn’t invent this; it’s common knowledge for some reason. Things do not become clichés randomly; it’s because, over time, they happen over and over again, across countries, across cultures, across everything. This is one of them. I’m not afraid of stating it: EXES DO HAVE A RADAR THAT TELLS THEM WHEN YOU’RE DOING FINE. This has happened to me on various occasions, and it was not eve

Recently single 75-year-old man has been contacted by multiple exes in the span of one month and doesn’t understand why: ‘What is the psychological motive here?’

Shrek WHAT? I can’t believe this is an actual concept, but we are living in a strange era. What is the world coming to? Lol. Of course, she is not overreacting; this could very well be the modern version of Carrie, except

24-year-old man introduces the concept of “shrekking” on a date: ‘I bet you're glad for this trend, How does it feel to be on a date with someone so handsome?’

To have a guilty conscience The most ridiculous part of this story is that the supposedly betrayed part is not even angry. The only one who’s freaking out is the one who has a guilty conscience. It’s sad how you can find out, years later, that not all of your friends have the capacity to have an honest, heart-to-heart conversation. Maybe you used to kee

40-year-old man realizes his soon-to-be ex-wife is dating his friend, who has now blocked him everywhere: ‘How would you feel? I’m told a real friend wouldn’t do that’

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Oh no! The consequences of my own actions Facing reality can sometimes be hard; one can realize that one was living well beyond one’s means, or that one lost not only a relationship but also a specific lifestyle. To me, separations come with th

‘We should’ve just stayed living together and tried to reconcile the relationship’: 25-year-old man warns his ex-girlfriend that if she moves to an expensive apartment, she will be living paycheque to paycheque

Do we get married to please family and friends? I don’t think the concept of marriage is independent of gatherings and celebrations; the origins of marriage as a ceremony are directly linked to community, family, and groups. It was originally a celebration precisely orchestrated within society and a ritual that symbolized a passage from one role inside it

A couple gets secretly engaged, then secretly married, and ends up disappointing their loved ones when they eventually find out: ‘From our perspective, we didn't do it to exclude anyone or because we don't love our families and friends’

Not many things are as frustrating in the dating world as discovering that somebody you thought was the perfect guy wasn’t perfect at all. If we’re lucky enough, this kind of thing happens early, and we’re attentive enough to see it and take action. After an event like this, we can get caught up in any sort of justification for our significant

‘I met his college best friends at a pub and he instantly morphed into a loud, obnoxious alpha bro’: Woman wonders if she is overreacting or if the perfect guy she was dating suddenly dropped his mask

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We all want the best for our partners; we want them to do well at their jobs, to get a raise, to reach their goals. Sometimes, we also want them to look their best because we see them with our loving eyes, know they are the prettiest in the room, and we want them to shine at all times. But what happens when what’s driving our partner's actions is not nece

36-year-old man constantly ‘fixes’ and critiques his 34-year-old girlfriend’s appearance: ‘When I tell him it bothers me, he says I'm taking it personally and that he just wants me to “look my best”’

This could qualify as a horror story. It would be a good A24 film. A man gets smart-fridge notifications in the middle of the night while everyone is sound asleep. In this case, discovering a snack-eating ghost would’ve been a better outcome than what really happened. Infidelities are not solved via an exorcism

Man catches wife’s affair thanks to his smart fridge’s notifications: ‘She said she slept the whole night through, no interruptions. That was the exact wrong thing to say to a man holding fridge-door notification data’