Newton's third law of motion teaches us that every action has an equal and opposite reaction . But, as some of us learned the hard way, in some cases the reaction is much worse than the action, and all we can do is find a way to deal with it. When we take a surprising action opposite other people, whether it is family, colleagues, or friends, we usually know what to expect from the opposite reaction. When a woman tells her husband she's pregnant, she expects excitement, when an employee tells t…