Not everyone believes in that old saying, “It's the thought that counts.” U/Salt_Mood_7908 wrote to the r/etiquette sub with a burning question on her mind. She's suddenly found herself in an awkward situation with her SIL. This SIL asked for only “vanilla cards” as presents. While this is a term I've never heard before, it apparently refers to prepaid debit cards . And this SIL wants only those, so that she won't be “loaded down with stuff she won't use.” Now, if you want to have a preference…