How can one differentiate between people who act and make decisions out of selfishness and people who simply try to look after themselves and their own needs? As a society, we are constantly being flooded with contradicting messages when it comes to self-love and care: ‘Be kind to others’, ‘Love thy neighbor’, ‘Put yourself first’, ‘Love yourself before loving others’, etc… These messages make it impossible to know when we're supposed to put ourselves first and when we need to put ourselves asi…