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Woman gets upset at the guy she's dating because he acts nice when they are alone but condescending when he's with his friends, now she doubts if he's sincere: 'Am I blowing his banter out of proportion?'

The unavoidable friend I don’t think this is a matter of how social this friend is, really. I know that’s a plausible theory, but some attitudes point to other underlying reasons for this friend’s intrusiveness. Some people can’t see t

Woman wonders how to stop overly social friend from inserting herself into every plan she makes with other people: ‘Sometimes she’ll even message the other person directly or show up after getting the details from me’

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Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about when it’s the right time to express ourselves. Sometimes, a problem arises, and we speak too quickly, at a time when everyone involved is defensive and nobody understands what’s really going on. Other times, we decide to speak when it’s too late, and we hurt someone for a long time with our sile

Woman abruptly ends a friendship over a comment from social media. After some time, the friend wonders why she never spoke to her about it: ‘I just accepted that we had become more casual friends. But instead of saying that, I made up some dumb excuse.’

When friendships consist of trios, it’s only natural that sometimes two of the people involved team up and the other gets left out. I’m not saying it’s ok; I’m saying it happens. I have many long-term friendship trios that have evolved in many ways through the years, sometimes leaving me out, sometimes leaving somebody else out, and sometimes being

20-year-old woman ghosts friend after she compares her to a bad ice cream flavour: ‘Once you try it, you kind of start to like it. And it has all of these layers like it's deeper than you thought, but you have to learn to like it.’

Closure is a funny thing; it’s never entirely clear to us what we are trying to find when we’re looking for it. Oftentimes we want to express our side of the story before we let go of the other person completely; other times, we’re secretly hoping to reignite a friendship or a past love affair; but every time it’s a

Man wonders if reaching out to an ex-best friend for closure is worth it after three years of no contact: ‘I feel like doing that might help me finally let her go completely and close that chapter on a good note’

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Friendships are something most people want, yet not as many people make an effort to find and maintain them. It’s a tough subject because socially, we assume it's something people should naturally know how to do, and I’m starting to think many people fail at it because it doesn’t come as naturally to everyone.

Man wonders whether people are putting less effort into maintaining friendships, or whether people don’t want to be around him: ‘They always say “we need to hang more”/“we need to do this again soon!” and then they never reach out to set something up’

I never thought baking delicious brownies could be implemented as a revenge tactic. Being 100% honest, I don’t even think the people who ate them understood it as such, but I’ve now got to a way deeper realization: Maybe the only one who needs to feel the revenge worked is the one who did it.

Student cooks delicious brownies as revenge against annoying teammates: ‘Even years later, I occasionally get a message from a group member asking for the recipe. I ignored them all’

As we get older, we realize that being part of a group often costs money. We have to go for drinks, we celebrate birthdays, and we have dinner parties. On birthdays, we buy gifts, drinks cost money, and dinners are expensive, even if they are hosted by a friend of ours. For some people, it’s very hard to assume you don’t have that much money, and they’d rather fake it ‘til they make it.

Man exposes friend who always expects someone else to cover her bill during dinner parties: 'Before ordering, I quietly asked if everyone was okay paying for their own meals. Everyone agreed'

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The much-feared group projects Back when I was in college, I had to work in groups all the time, and many of these things happened to me. And I suppose they happened to anyone who went through any sort of formal education.

College student is forced to do a group project in which nobody does anything so she decides to get revenge: 'I let the excruciatingly silent seconds drag on every single time, looking slowly to both of them with each question and taking my sweet time'

This story is the final proof that no absolute narrative exists; two people can have two opposing interpretations of what happened, and most of the time there is no use in trying to convince one of them otherwise.

Woman thinks her best friend of ten years is in love with her, friend says she is not and she doesn't believe it: 'Now, years later, I still question myself. Was there something I was unconsciously feeling and suppressing?'

Weddings are life-altering events; when we’re getting closer and closer to them, our opinion changes, new fears arise, and we might feel called to call it quits.

Man was supposed to be a groomsman on his 22-year-old friend's wedding until he cancelled it and ran away with another woman, now he wants to request reimbrusement for his investments: 'I want my money back for everything I put into HIS wedding'

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Introverts and extroverts speak different languages. The same event can be experienced in totally different ways depending on whether the person experiencing it is an introvert or an extrovert.

26-year-old leaves a hangout early because her friend didn't tell her she was bringing another friend, and now she questions her reaction: 'Later she went to chat with a table of pilots, and again I felt left out'

Luckily, most of this intense drama happens in high school and stays there. Still, years later, we find out we’re paying the price to this day with numerous insecurities and sensitivity around certain topics.

Best friend of six years dates the guy her friend liked in high-school, leaving her questioning if the friendship was toxic or if she is viewing everything from the lens of her own hurt: 'Was this friendship unhealthy from both sides?'

This character flaw is rather hard to live with if a friend has it. You do your best; you tell them reunions start an hour before they actually start, so if they arrive one hour late, they are actually early.

Woman is always more than 40 minutes late to every event and friend doubts if she should confront her about her chronic tardiness or not: 'It's getting worse but at the same time I don't think she does it on purpose and I don't want to hurt her feelings'

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There’s a fine line between helping someone and enabling them. I’ve been in situations myself where friends of mine acted stingy with their stuff. In those cases, helping out wouldn’t have been a way to enable me, but I understand everybody draws the line in a different place. This woman seems puzzled about the way she acted towards a friend of hers.

31-year-old woman refuses to offer her spare bedroom to her friend who's being kicked out and becoming homeless: 'I do feel bad, however I don’t feel responsible to offer my spare room'

Oftentimes, we normalize the way we naturally act around friendship and never stop to think: Am I being a good enough friend? This is precisely what this Redditor started to do after she noticed most of her friends cancelled on her at the last minute. My take on the topic is that her friends doing that doesn’t necessarily mean she is a bad friend; it might even mean she has bad friends lol.

28-year-old woman wonders how can she become a better friend after all her friends cancel on her last minute and thinking her being a bad friend is causing that: 'I feel like I should be a better friend so people would actually want to spend time with me'